Blair Counseling Crystal Lake Illinois, Marital Screening by Dan Blair Counselor

Marital Screening

Please rate yourself and ask one other person who knows you well to rate you using the following scale:

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Do you or your spouse feel tired at home?

Do you or your spouse feel irritable at home?

Do you or your spouse find yourself increasingly annoyed with your partner?

Do you or your spouse feel resentment?

Do you or your spouse criticize, complain, or make sarcastic comments?

Have you or your spouse lost interest in the marriage relationship?

Do you feel like you and your spouse just can’t communicate?

Is sex less of a priority, or is there interest in sexual satisfaction outside the marriage?

Have you or your spouse lost interest in giving each other small gifts?

Have you or your spouse lost interest in doing thoughtful things for the other?

Do you or your spouse threaten separation/divorce?

Do you or your spouse ever get physically aggressive on others or property?

Do you or your spouse give the other the “silent treatment?”

Consider a professional assessment if:

You or your partner gets physically aggressive. (Talk to a counselor as soon as possible.)

You are concerned about the checked symptoms.

You checked “3’s” and “4’s” and have felt this way for at least six months.

You have difficulty accomplishing daily tasks.

Once, you were happy and in love. Now you feel like you can’t win with your partner, or you have just lost interest. At best, you do not want to live as mere roommates for the rest of your life. At worst, conflict can lead to depression, health problems, and impact your children. What is different now? If you were happy once, can’t we be happy again? Blair Counseling provides optional approaches to deal with resentments, lack of energy for the relationship, and lack of communication.

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What Happened to "Happily Married?"

Making a marriage a priority is easy in the first stage of marriage, as partners are naturally energized and more tolerant of each other. But over time and as other stressors demand time and attention, less time and energy are available to go to the relationship. At this point annoyances and maybe resentments emerge, and criticism, complaining, or your partner’s lack of effort may cause you to lose feeling for the other. Goals at Blair Counseling include better communication and increased understanding of each partner.